Love must be one of the most powerful forces of nature. It is what helps us making bounds, forming families and lighten up our lives and everybody seeks for it, whether gay or not. Whatever the case may be, love is anything but simple and there have been a lot of theories trying to explain this apparently simple phenomenon that has serious implications in our lives.
It took years to break down the essentials that converge in bringing to life this potent feeling and this is how the love’s chemistry was unveiled. Now, psychology agrees that there are certain factors that are common to almost everybody, which are responsible for the feeling of love and here they are:
- The need for fulfillment
Everybody has different needs, whether you look for intimacy, a confident with whom you can share your deepest thoughts, the need for affection, and so on. When choosing your partner, you usually seek to cover a need that you have.
2. Bonding experiences
Exciting, dangerous or riveting situations can cause your body to produce more adrenaline and this could be an important factor in bonding with your future lover. The interesting thing is that these types of experiences can be the cornerstones for a deeper and more meaningful love.
3. Wanted qualities
Contrary to what you may think, appearance is at the bottom of the list. As psychologists suggest, appearance may have no role in developing feelings of love and long lasting affection. Most, in not all of us, seek intellectual fulfillment and we will always chose personality over looks. Now different people look for different traits and what you look for is strongly related to your own personality. So what you are looking for is compatibility.
4. That special something
Call it x-factor, call it whatever you like, this is something that makes the one you love to stand out from the crowd. Whether you love his eyes, his smile, or any other physical characteristic, his sense of humor or the way he compliments you, there is always something that immediately draws your attention.
- Spending time together
How many times have you seen in movies that 2 characters hate each other in the beginning and end up falling in love with one another. This seems to be simply because a bit of a lone time together may actually cause you to bond and get to know each other better. Remember that next time when you end up in constant arguing with a guy. That could be a call-to-action.
- The unknown
It is a fact that we are usually drawn by those who seem mysterious to us in some way or another. This is why some can feel attracted to criminals and even to some that are not necessarily criminals, but have that “bad boy” looks. This is the same thing that appeals to us when feeling intrigued by those coming from different cultures.
- You like the one who likes you back
We all love that feeling of being wanted by someone and we love being in the center of attention. In most of the cases this makes us feeling attracted to those who find us attracting. It is just as simple as that. You like the one that likes you.
- Soul mate
This concept will appear when you will find that person that will fill all your sentimental gaps and is the one that check “affirmative” to all your desired personality traits. That is when you will have the feeling that the other person completes you and you will soon be incapable of imagining a world where your lover would not exist. It is one of the stronger connections between two human beings and it is what makes us love someone even long after they are gone.
Now, of course, these are not going to fully explain how love truly works, because there are plenty of other unknowns to be explained. The most important thing of all is that you should follow your heart, because you are the only one who knows how it works.