The strongest
pathway to pleasure for most men and people with prostates isn’t in the front,
it’s in the back. This is true even for those who don’t realize it yet. People
might hate on it or be grossed out by it, but it’s just a simple fact of human
biology. If you can accept that and relax a little, you’ll live life a little
more to its fullest than you otherwise would. Trust us.
As those of us
familiar will tell you, anal sex and prostate stimulation are fantastic. Here are a
few ways you can make the most of it.
For most, the
way to experience
anal pleasure is with a human partner. That being said, there are lots of
things sex toys can do that human partners can’t. For one, they’re always
there. For those of us with sky-high sex drives, there are few bigger
blessings. Also, whether you’re playing solo or with your lover, a
well-designed sex toy can introduce sensations you would never otherwise get.
Anal toys can
be especially life-changing for gay men. Why? Because while the penis can
easily be stimulated by hand (a fact you probably discovered at an early age),
the anus and its plethora of sensations are more difficult to explore on your
own. You’ll want to be on the lookout for resources that help introduce you to prostate orgasms.
You don’t have
to live another day without satisfying anal penetration in your life anymore.
There is such a diverse range of affordable anal toys out there that anyone can
get the sensations they want with a little help. And if you do have a partner,
there are anal toys out there that can help make anal intercourse feel
downright insane.
Even if you
think of yourself as physically fit and healthy, sex toy safety is no joke.
When shopping for sex toys, make sure you go for reputable brands and select
body-safe materials such as 100% silicone. It comes in varying degrees of
softness and is the best material for those who enjoy lifelike sensations. If
you enjoy something stiffer, so to speak, there are plenty of safe, rigid
materials out there as well such as borosilicate glass, stainless steel,
treated wood, stone, and ceramic. All of these materials are easy to sanitize
by boiling and should last you a very long time.
Finding a safe
anal toy is only the first step. You’ll also need to be a responsible toy user.
Unless you plan to share your toy box, anal toys carry very little risk of STI infection. If you ARE a sharer, you have a
few options: you can sanitize your toy between use or roll on a condom before
sharing. Use extreme caution if you’re sharing a toy made from a porous
material such as ABS plastic or PVC, as these are impossible to fully sanitize.
Always prepare
plenty of lube when using sex toys. Not only does this make insertion more
comfortable and pleasurable, but it also helps you avoid anal tears, which can
make you more prone to infection and injury.
Finally, look
for anal toys that won’t easily get lost in your anal canal. Unlike the vagina,
there’s no cervix up there serving as a natural stopper for your backdoor. You
wouldn’t want your dildo or butt plug to get lost in the dark unknown!
One of the
reasons why anal sex is so enjoyable is because it gives you a deep and
satisfying filling sensation. If deep thrusting is what you enjoy, there are
plenty of basic and not-so-basic anal toy options out there for you.
1. Dildos
You can accomplish
a lot with a simple dildo. You can thrust it inside of
yourself, you can keep it inside as a sort of butt plug, or you can use it to
rub against your prostate to induce a prostate orgasm. Generally speaking, a
good beginner dildo will have a diameter of about 1.5” (approximately the width
of two fingers), though this depends on how much experience you’ve had with
anal penetration. Some dildo brands we particularly enjoy include Lovehoney,
Fleshjack, Tantus, and Blush Novelties. Look for them at your local sex shop or
online.
2. Beads
Beads offer a
much more gradual and nuanced experience than dildos. You warm up with the
smallest beads, then you slowly ease in beads of increasing sizes. As you push
the beads inside of you, you’ll feel where each one goes, and you’ll get a
tingling sensation in parts of your anatomy that you might not have even known
existed. Anal beads come in many forms ranging from narrow to thick, from
flexible to hard-as-rock. There are also vibrating options out there if you
like a little extra motion.
3. Sex Machines
Thrusting a sex
toy inside yourself is a great way to take your pleasure into your own hands,
but the reality is that sometimes our sex drive surpasses our energy levels.
Some days, you’ll want it fast and you’ll want it hard. When that happens, a
thrusting sex machine can be your best friend. For a long time, machines with
thrusting dildos were mostly the stuff of the porn world. But that’s starting
to change with more cordless handheld thrusting sex machines hitting the
market.
All orgasms
make people happy, but many men swear by the full-body, long-lasting sensation
of prostate orgasms. The path to a prostate orgasm
is always a delicate one that requires an awareness of your own erogenous
zones. While any anal toy can stimulate your prostate and induce orgasm, a toy
specifically designed for the purpose will make the process much easier. For
specific toy recommendations, see our article spotlighting the 13 best prostate toys.
1. Prostate Massager
Available in
vibrating and non-vibrating forms, prostate massagers are designed to hit all
the right sweet spots in your backdoor and make prostate stimulation a lot
easier. It will take you some practice, but it’s possible to get a cum-shooting
orgasm just by clenching and unclenching your muscles around a prostate
massager. Another option is to leave your massager in as you play with your
penis or penetrate your partner to enhance sensation.
Some of the
most popular prostate massagers come from brands such as Aneros, Tantus, and
Lelo. More advanced prostate players may want to try the MEO stainless steel
milking stick, which allows you to direct pressure exactly where you want it.
2. Curved Dildos
If you’re
looking for a more multi-purpose prostate toy, a curved dildo makes a great
alternative. Not only will it lead to maximum contact with your prostate, but
you can also thrust it inside yourself when you’re in the mood for something a
little more hardcore.
A date night
with your sex toy is a great opportunity for self-care. Sometimes, being
selfish is the healthiest thing you could do. If you do have someone (or
someones) in your life that you enjoy getting down and dirty with, however, you
probably aren’t complaining either. Intercourse is one of the most
life-affirming experiences out there.
Any sex toy can
be used during intercourse. For example, masturbating yourselves and each other
using dildos and other toys is one of the best ways to have sex on a lazy day.
Some toys can also help enhance the feel of penetrative sex and are specially
designed for couples.
1. Butt Plugs
Butt
plugs are versatile and extremely easy to use. They range in size from
roughly the width of a finger to as thick as your ankle and are capable of
stimulating the anal rim, prostate, and anal canal at the same time. One of the
best things about butt plugs is that they stay in place pretty well no matter
how frisky you’re getting. If you’re generally on top during sex, then a butt
plug in your backdoor can do wonders for heightening the sensations in your
penis. Look for a silicone butt plug if you enjoy something soft or a glass
butt plug if you prefer anything but.
2. Double Ended Dildos
If you and your
partner are both fans of anal penetration, then you might enjoy using a double
ended dildo. Both of you will get one end of the dildo, and you’ll both get to
grind on it as you please. As you do, you’ll simultaneously push the dildo
further inside each other. Double ended dildos also happen to be super handy
for solo use. The extra length basically means that it comes with an easy grip
handle attached.
3. Penis Sleeves
Penis sleeves
are worn outside the penis during sex for few purposes: they put penises with
ED or tired penises back into play and they enhance the size and/or shape of
your penis. Find a penis sleeve with the right fit and material and you’ll be
able to enhance feeling for both partners. A little dab of lube both inside and
out of the sleeve can help.
4. 2-in-1 Cock Rings & Butt Plugs
A 2-in-1 cock
ring and butt plug is more than just the sum of its parts. By connecting the
two erogenous zones, this toy heightens the sensations experienced by both.
What’s more, to many men and women, the sight of a man with a 2-in-1 cock ring
and butt plug stretched across the perineum is just too sexy to handle. Start
with a silicone option such as those offered by Lovehoney, then consider moving
up to a hardcore stainless steel model.
5. Remote-Controlled Vibrators
For some men,
there are few things hotter than putting control in someone else’s hands. If
you or your partner count yourself as one of them, then a remote-controlled
vibrating toy such as a plug or prostate toy is definitely for you. Picture
this: you insert the toy in your partner, turn it on to its lowest setting, and
then start giving him a slow blowjob. Right as you begin speeding things up,
you also up the speed on their vibrator. Maximum pleasure in all the right places.
Whether you’re
a size queen or not, your dream dildo or dream penis can take some working up
to. In other words, your anus may not be ready for what you want to put inside.
In a previous article, we discussed how to prepare
for anal sex if you’ve never had it before. If your goal is to width train your
anus, there are also toys out there that can take you exactly where you want to
be.
1. Anal Trainer Kits
Anal trainer
kits are essentially butt plugs that come in sets of three size variations or
more. You start with the smallest one, then you work your way up to the
largest. Some trainer kits will come in the traditional plug shape, but others
come in cylindrical shapes to mirror the shape of a penis. The best thing about
trainer kits is that because the plugs are so inconspicuous, you can wear them
while you go about your day to day. That way, you won’t have to dedicate any
time specifically to “training.”
2. Thick Anal Beads
Many anal beads
are stringy and ideal for foreplay, but some anal beads come with balls of
increasing widths that are actually quite thick. If width training is your
goal, then go for those thicker beads. Thanks to the gradually increasing
sizes, you’ll always have a visible indicator of just how much you can take at
the time.
Be Patient And Have Fun!
Will toys help
add whole new dimensions to your sex life? Yes. Do some toys take a little time
to work up to? Also yes. It’s completely normal to start with smaller toys or
toys that are easier to use. If all you’re used to is having a finger or two
inside of you, then start with a small plug. If you know you love huge dicks,
then go for toys that will challenge your size limits.
Just as no two
bodies are alike, your sex toy collection is bound to be completely unique.
Have fun!
