My dad is gay but my mom doesn’t know it

I never would have suspected this, but it is all true: my dad is gay. I just found out about a week ago and it left me perplexed. My parents are being together for over 20 years now and they have never had any similar problems so far. I mean I think I would have heard about it. I am 19 years old and my mom always tells me everything but she never mentioned anything like this.

I haven’t talked to my dad about private stuff so far, but then again I am a girl and I am closer to my mom in this regard; I like sharing my concerns and secrets to a girl. But that does not mean that I am more distant towards my dad. Actually, we are pretty close and I think I would dare to say that he is a perfect parent from my point of view. You could not ask anything more from him; he is loving, caring and playful, always there for us and always ready to comfort and entertain us.

This is why the latest happenings made me wonder if I really know him that well and I honestly don’t know what to believe anymore. Lately my dad got promoted and began spending more time at work than usual. Furthermore, he started being called at late hours at times, long after his working schedule had ended, but no one ever suspected what I would discover shortly.

At first I never suspected anything, until my mom said that she kind of misses him since he got promoted, precisely because he spends so much time at work. But my dad, on the other hand, didn’t seem to be quite affected by the fact that his schedule had become more crowded. I initially thought that he was so absorbed by his work that he just didn’t had any time to think of anything else, but when the situation spread over the course of few months, I realized that something was a bit strange. I did not want to share my concerns with my mom, because I know how sensitive she is and I didn’t want to worry her without being sure about the whole situation.

I begin suspecting that my dad could have found someone else, another woman, although I have never witnessed any problems of romantic nature in my family. My parents always seemed to get along just fine and I never thought they will ever have such problems.

But then again that ominous day came when I got home from school earlier than usual and I found my dad half naked, ready to make love to another man. The image literally shocked me that I failed to realize I had interrupted an intimate act between my father and someone else than my mother. All I could think of was the fact that my father was about to make love to another man. I could not believe that it is all true, it seemed more like a joke really.

After the shock passed, my dad talked to me about the whole situation and told me that it is indeed possible to love both men and women and that he has been bisexual his entire life. He never told that to my mom, because he didn’t think it was necessary and now he fell in love with a client of his.

This whole situation seems so awkward to me that I am still having difficulties in accepting it. I don’t see how can a man fall in love with two different persons at the same time. I guess I can understand the bisexual stuff, but splitting your heart between two different individuals seems weird to me. I still love and respect my dad, but I don’t know what to think of the whole situation.