Ah, the prostate massager. For every man who’s figured out how great using one can really be, there are at least 2-4 other men scared of giving them a fair shake.
Most of this is all in the search of the ever so elusive prostate, sometimes referred to as the P-spot (like the G-spot) because stimulating this area of the male anatomy makes for an unexpectedly enjoyable experience that some say is far better than the typical stimulation you can get from regular masturbation. In fact, most men say that a prostate orgasm is at least an order of magnitude more intense.
Here’s a quick biology lesson: the prostate is a gland in the male reproductive system responsible for producing prostatic fluid which makes up 30% of semen volume and contains enzymes and zinc, among a few other substances. The muscles in the prostate also help to propel semen through the urethra. The prostate sits right below the bladder and the back end of it can be rubbed by inserting something about 2-3 inches inside the anal cavity.
This is where the magic happens. At this point, rubbing the prostate can bring immense pleasure in a way that’s much different than masturbating with the penis. Of course this was first discovered by way of using fingers, but hygiene concerns and a few cramps later someone figured that there’s got to be a better way of accomplishing this.
Enter the prostate massager. They are sex toys designed to help men more easily & comfortably find their prostates and give it the ol’ what-for. A good prostate massager is made from body safe materials like silicone and has a large base that will prevent it from becoming lost inside the anus. Comfort is key here, with some prostate massagers doing far better than others. These toys come in various shapes and sizes, but there are some common points to most. For most guys, something in the realm of 1’’-1.5’’ in diameter is a good starting point.
The orgasm 99% of men over the age of 16 are all to familiar with is the orgasm that can be had by repeated frottage of the genitals. There’s a build up, and slowly the tension becomes too much to bear and the body responds with an orgasm. After this, there’s usually a refractory period in which the man can’t get another erection or have another orgasm for a short while.
A prostate orgasm is a completely different beast entirely. During a prostate massage, finger or a toy is inserted into the anal cavity with a slight angle that tends towards the front of the body. This stimulation in and of itself is pleasurable for many thanks to the many nerve endings in the anus. But the real target here is the prostate, which as I stated earlier is anywhere from 2-3 inches inside the anus. Most men have some difficulty finding their prostates, so toys like the Lovense Edge that allow for some bending to fit personal anatomy can be a godsend. Once the prostate has been found, rubbing it back and forth or letting the toy vibrate if it is motorized will result in extremely intense sexual stimulation that blows regular orgasms out of the water. A more comprehensive guide to prostate orgasms can be found on our Prostate Play 101page.
After a bit of rubbing, there will be a buildup and a release much like in regular masturbation, but there is no refractory period to speak of, so some men enjoy orgasm after orgasm via their prostate. It should be known that a prostate orgasm doesn’t necessarily mean ejaculation, nor does it necessarily mean you’ll get an erection either. It varies from person to person.
Shoving foreign objects into your anal cavity is usually an activity I’d advise against, but in this case the benefits are very much worth it. Carefully selecting your massager is key, our guide of the 13 Best Prostate Toys for Mencan help narrow down your choices a little. What am I talking about exactly? Well, let me explain:
1. New Sensations
While regular old masturbation may have been the bee’s knees when you were a nubile teenager just starting to figure out his body, after a while it kind of loses its charm. Don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing wrong with an old fashioned wank but you’d be lying to me if you were to say it’s the same as it was the first time around.
Choosing to explore the full range of sexual sensations you can feel by exploring with a prostate massager means that you’re able to feel brand new sensations that you’ve never felt before. Since you aren’t accustomed to these feelings, they will be novel and a whole new ball game. If you want to have a greater understanding of what the true limits of self-pleasure are, you’d be missing out by choosing to avoid prostate orgasms altogether.
2. Increased Connection To Your Body & Sexuality
Many men are extremely apprehensive about putting things up their anus, and I remember myself being in their position. However, when I found myself wanting to be able to connect with myself on a deeper level, prostate orgasms really helped me become more sexually liberated.
Once you’ve gone through with a prostate massage, there’s an increased amount of comfort you have with yourself and a much deeper understanding of just who you are as a person and what gets your motor running. A prostate orgasm will release chemicals in the brain that will make you feel calm and at peace with the world.
3. It Feels Fantastic
This is of course the simplest reason of them all, but it’s a good reason nonetheless. A prostate orgasm is perhaps one of the most intense sexual experiences a man can embark on. Anyone with a prostate can take advantage of these intense, knee buckling sensations that are completely unlike anything a man has felt before.
As far as relieving tension and blowing off some steam, the prostate massage is like a cheat code for sexual gratification. The fact that a man is able to have multiple orgasms back to back is completely unheard of outside of the realm of prostate stimulation, it’s completely up to you to decide when you’ve had enough.
4. It Can Bring You Closer To Your Partner
Using a prostate massager doesn’t have to be a solo endeavor. Many relationships, both heterosexual and homosexual, can be benefitted incredibly through the use of a prostate massager. They help to bring more intimacy into a relationship and establish trust between partners when it comes to anal play. You’re allowing your partner full reign over what’s going to be happening next to what is typically our body’s most closely guarded hole, so it’s a great way to establish trust in the bedroom.
5. Miscellaneous Health Benefits
While not all of these benefits have been verified to their full extent, it has been shown that prostate massages can help clear the prostatic duct of backed up fluids and help treat some common reproductive conditions found in males. Those who experience painful ejaculation may find relief from this cleaning of the prostatic ducts to allow a more clean path from the prostate down to the urethra.
Some men also report that a regular prostate massage can help ease inflammation of the prostate. This means that there is less discomfort in the area during the day and in extreme cases where the prostate is pushing against the bladder it will aid in making urine flow just a bit simpler. In short, there is evidence to suggest that regular prostate massage can help alleviate the problems associated with prostatitis.
When you peel back the velvet curtains and find a prostate orgasm on the other side, you might end up a little surprised. Far too many men live in fear of the prostate orgasm, but so long as you have the right massager there isn’t much to worry about. Start small and then work your way up as you become more comfortable, there’s no reason to have to buy a huge toy on your first go-around.
Remember to always use lube when using a prostate massager, the lining of the anal cavity is sensitive so it’s best you do everything you can to protect it, plus it’ll make the experience a lot less uncomfortable overall. The moment it starts to legitimately hurt you should stop immediately, pain is not the aim of a good prostate massage.
Once you finally manage to find a massager that works for you in tracking down your prostate time and time again, you’ll finally understand what all the fuss is about. From increased sexual satisfaction to a better understanding of yourself as a sexual being, the proof is in the pudding as to why a prostate massage should be next on your list of sexual adventures.