I am Peter, I am 18 years of age and I would like to tell you what it is like to be raised by a gay couple for your entire life. I have noticed that this is a hot topic and there are a lot of debates on whether gay couples are fit to adopt a child or not. I am here to tell you how that worked out for me so far and you can draw your own conclusions afterwards. My two dads are called Brian and Adam. Brian is a lawyer and Adam is a chef, but despite what the jobs may imply, Adam is the more responsible one and Brian is a bit more childish. I think they complete each other quite well.
When I was little, during my first two or three years in school, I didn’t know that there was any difference between my family and a straight one and I didn’t know what being part of a straight family was considered the norm. And I was obviously too young to actually care about these differences. It was only when I have reached high school that the things started becoming obvious. My dad Adam was the one mostly taking part of all the parent meetings that were being held from time to time and at one point the class master required for my mom to join one of the meetings, because she would have liked to meet her.
That is when it all came out and soon the entire high school found out that I was being raised by a couple of fags. I would lie if I would tell you that my life remained the same. At first my other colleagues were moderate, but then it all went downhill pretty fast. I kept being called a fag, a pussy and a queer and it was more than once that I got into fights over these insults. Eventually I had to get a transfer to another high school, because I had become so irritate about the whole situation that I would jump into a fight even for the smallest allusion.
That was the first time that I started realizing the difference between my family and others’ and when I was 16 I became a bit depressed and my dad Adam immediately noticed and convoked a family meeting to discuss the matter. I had so many questions and I was so upset about the situation and I am still grateful that my family took time to explain everything to me and show me understanding and compassion. They told me that I have been left in an orphanage by my mom, abandoned when I was few weeks old, and that no one ever came back for me. Adam told me that he had found out that my mom was a drug addict teenager that didn’t want to be held responsible for me. So she dumped me. Then he and Brian had adopted me soon after they got married and that is where my real life had started.
They have explained me what makes a real family and that are love, respect and commitment and that whoever dumps a child for fear of commitment, doesn’t deserve to be called a parent.
I have heard the argument that a gay family will offer harmful values to their kid and this is why they should not be allowed to adopt and I have to say that this is extremely stupid to support. I believe that in a gay family you learn the true values of respecting others’ rights and decisions and that it is not your sexual inclinations what makes you a human being, but your personality, the way you respect others and how you treat them. I am 18 and I consider myself lucky to have been raised by such a loving family such as mine and I know that many children out there didn’t have my luck. They still live in orphanages and end up on the streets, with no education and no one to love them.
You think gay people should not adopt children? You are the primitive one, not them, because a family’s love has no gender or sexual preferences. Love is the link between two souls, not two bodies.
Oh, and I am straight. How about that?