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A straight-identifying man on Reddit says he’s considering becoming homosexual because he thinks he’ll get more action, but he’s having some difficulty actually following through with it.

“So I’m a straight man and I heard gay men have a lot of sex I figured well might as well join ’em,” he writes. “Thing is I’ve tried: watching gay porn and solo gay guys and, sadly, I don’t get aroused.”

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That certainly is disappointing.

“Well,” he continues, “I do get aroused at straight blow job porn, so halfway there I’d say. I don’t wanna hook up with a guy and then not get aroused. That’d be embarrassing.”

He wonders: “How can I get aroused by a guy?”

And now, the responses…

“You need to bathe in the sweat of fifty righteous men, that’ll turn you gay,” one person writes. “That or lick the horn of a unicorn.”

“Definitely lick the horn of a unicorn,” another person adds, “preferably at a glory hole.”

“Download the app Grindr,” a third person suggests. “See if any sexy guys are around.”

Others just can’t seem to wrap their heads the man’s motivations:

“If you don’t get aroused by gay sex then why do you want to do it?” one person asks.

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“If you’re not into it, you’re not into it,” another concurs. “There’s nothing we can do to recruit you.”

“Try hooking up with a guy,” someone else suggests. “If you like then great. If you don’t there’s not much you can do about it. Being gay isn’t a choice.”

Then there are the more thoughtful replies:

“I’m pretty sure men can get aroused if their genitals are consistently stimulated from any source,” one particularly academic person writes. “Thus it is called ‘sexual behavior,’ which differs from sex, gender, and orientation. Your sexual behavior doesn’t define your orientation. There are gay-for-pay straight guys wherever you go.”

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  1. As many have pointed out, being gay isn’t a choice. But if this man is determined to give it a go…

    I number among those who gain little or no arousal through porn. I find it stupid and repetitive. Always the same dubbed in moans/groans/slaps against some ridiculous bongo music.

    I would, strongly, advise this man being completely up front and honest with the person with whom he plans to experiment. Preferably, I think it should be someone he knows who’s gay… a closer friend and someone who has his trust and confidence. It will make it more comfortable for them both.

    Plan a weekend of it. Just the two of them, perhaps beginning on a Friday evening. That would give them two full nights together, with at least one full day for relaxed discussion, question and answers… this could be t an apartment or, perhaps, a hotel room out of town.

    A nice dinner and a few cocktails could go a long way to help relax them and to feel less inhibited. Be comfortable. Wear comfy clothes, underwear, pajama bottoms, sweats… whatever makes you both feel the most relaxed, and perhaps, a bit alluring to the other.

    Put in a movie, dim the lights, sit close on the sofa or in the bed. If you want to put your hand on his thigh or around his shoulder, be sure to let the other know so as not to alarm him. And talk to each other… discuss the movie, your day, his job… Stroke the hair on the nape of his neck, softly trace the curve of ear wit your finger

    When the mood is right, take his chin and turn his face toward yours and kiss him, softly,on the lips. If there’s a response (you’ll know it), kiss him again, slowly. Take your time. No need in the world to rush things.

    Assure each other’s comfort and readjust if needed. At this point, you may want to stop for a bit, use the restroom, freshen your drinks, take something off… Again, there’s no reason or need to rush anything.

    If you enjoyed kissing and felt a response, do more. Hold his face in your hands and be a bit more seductive with your kissing. Take the kisses to the ears, down the neck, or on the eyelids.

    I could take you through the entire night, but… The point is, take your time. Be patient. The next day can be used to encourage more questions from him. Spend the day shopping together, taking a car ride, walk along the beach. Ask him if he’s ever held any fantasies and try to play them out. Above all, be open and honest.

    And that’s my input and advice. I hope it was helpful. As I say, I could go on…