So: a man tells his girlfriend he regularly enjoys gay adult entertainment. What kind of aftermath would you predict?
Our vision gets soapy: Dishes flung at the kitchen wall, frantic batting of bathrobe sleeves, maybe some sobbing in the tub, or even lying in the middle of the road to hint at your displeasure.
But perhaps we’re old-fashioned and need to step up with the times. A young woman who goes by the handle Stormwinder has written into Reddit to express her glee at this very scenario:
I finally asked, “What’s going on with you? I mean it. The thing you won’t tell me? Please? There’s something there isn’t there? (Sensing that weird barrier about to break, and him hesitating and thinking…) PLEASE tell me. Please! I’m open. Please!”
I almost laughed. Then I said: “I thought you were about to tell me you’d killed someone. Are you kidding me?”
I think we saw something like that in a Highway to Heaven episode once.
Anyway, this man — whom she’s had an on-again, off-again relationship with for several months — eventually came clean and confessed he also used escort services to hire men for the occasional dalliance. Her reaction? “I was very turned on,” she writes. “My whole world just opened up.”
Since then, their sex has been “mind-shattering” and “we’ve grown so much closer it’s insane.” Communication has vastly improved and they’re “down with occasional escorts,” although not “to the point of it becoming polyamory or swinging.”
Storm winder even has a few pointers for bi guys seeking out a female partner, which we’ve paraphrased below. (She may have found a cool bisexual partner, but she’s yet to find an editor.)
- Many seemingly open women will come across as “straight vanilla close-minded” types if they’ve had a long history of straight men making them feel weird about enjoying the idea of two guys together.
- A lot of women are into gay male adult films, and I’m not sure what this means but I think it might be worth looking into for bisexual men.
- A female that reacts with shock and surprise to a closeted bisexual boyfriend/husband may very likely come round to this sexual identity once the female realizes it doesn’t threaten their relationship.
- Girls who are comfortably open to dating bisexual guys exist. If you’re a bisexual guy, troll the relevant web/dating sites for girls into gay porn… they share something in common with you!!