Hi, I am Barry Smith and I am 14 and I have a problem. I am gay, I have always liked guys. Girls are nice too, but they are just not my thing. I realized this about 3 years ago and I have talked to my older brother about it, but at the time he told me that I should wait and experiment and see if I really like what I thought I like. By the way, my brother is also gay and he is 24 now.

Until one month ago we lived together with our parents, but now Ryan is gone. He got into a really bad fight with our mom and dad and he left home. It is not the first time when he is doing this, but he came back for me. He told me that he couldn’t stand living in the same house with them, but that he cared for me too much to leave me alone. He also told me, when I was younger, that I should not tell them about the fact that I like boys. I never understood why, but I think I understand now.

I am gay
Until one month ago we lived together with our parents, but now Ryan is gone – blogspot.ro

My mom is an English teacher and my dad works as a construction engineer. My dad drinks a lot and he always causes trouble when doing so. Especially now, when Ryan left home, he seems to be quite angry with the whole situation and it seems like I am now the central attraction. He tells me that I need to be a man and stand up for the family and have a strong character. He tells me that the Smith family has a history of strong and imposing men and that my brother is a pussy and a fag. I had to research the term fag to know what it means. I remember that he used to give more or less the same speeches to my brother. About real men and all. I guess now he is expecting me to follow his steps, like Ryan never did.

I am gay
I guess now he is expecting me to follow his steps, like Ryan never did – andafunda.com

About three months ago, when Ryan fled from home for the first time he got into an arguing with my dad and I think that was the first time when he told him that he was gay. Since then it was like he had lost his minds. All he does now is talk about how Ryan is unworthy of his name and that he should never step into his house again. My mother does not seem to be as acidic as my dad is, but she talk to me numerous times and told me that I should take my brother as an example and never do what he does.

What should I do now? My brother has left for about one month and I am now alone with my parents. And I don’t know what to do. I started liking a guy in my school that I know is gay, but I cannot reveal myself to anybody. What if my parents find out?

I am gay
What should I do now? My brother has left for about one month and I am now alone with my parents – desibucket.com

I think I should try and find out where my brother is and ask him. Maybe he will know what I should do.

23 COMMENTS

  1. so are mine tried all my life to get on with them now 45 havent seen them or any of my family for years now miss them but im getting on with my life just move on

  2. Burn your Patents to death or kill one so they know how it feels to judge about love

    • That is not the right thing to say. Killing or burning them won’t change how they feel. He needs to just live life to the fullest even if it’s losing them bc life is to short to be unhappy bc of others.

    • Isnt it weak to do nothing I mean maybe thats the piont why nobody cares about ltgb because people are not affraid of and that is the way people lern respect

    • Isnt it weak to do nothing I mean maybe thats the piont why nobody cares about ltgb because people are not affraid of and that is the way people lern respect

  3. It’s too bad, because you would think that parents should stand beside their children

  4. If I was you I would not let them get to you and think being gay is a sin instead go on and live your true self and be happy because that’s the most important thing NOT what others think about you

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  5. Pray for them. Ask G-d to help you with a way out to be yourself. He loves you unconditionally. Look at life for the long run. Study and work hard and the move away for college. Be patient. Be strong.

  6. When I came out to mine I told them that I was no different after telling them then I was 5 minutes prior and we had a good relationship and gave then the choice to accept or let me walk away … They chose to accept

  7. Hi Barry Smith,your young i understand what you’re going through,but take your time coming out to your parents.stay in school and graduate,go to college if you choose to.but by all means don’t rush your sexual desire.get yourself stable first then persue your happiness.

  8. you need to be true to yourself be who you are I understand that you might not have a place to go that is the most scary thing but the community is at large and there’s always help out there so what your parents can except you that’s their loss on an amazing person like you I wish and pray the best for you specially during the holiday season that is the most scariest thing to go through remember we are all out here all you have to do is reach out and ask to talk help or anything and we will trytalking helps the major part your parents may not be excepting ready at first that’s to be expected but talk with him make him understand and hopefully they’ll come around because you are there a child and if they love you they shouldn’t love you unconditionally I need someone to talk to hit me up always willing to talk to people

  9. No tedeprimas eres muy valiente y Estudia y sigue con tu vida y busca apoyo y se fuerte porque es dificil esta vida que no escogimos pero las perzonas no entienden y tedeceo lo mejor y espero que tu hermano te apoye para que te superes y no te sientas menos que nadie eres grande y seras grande

  10. I’d like to tell you to simple be patient… be strong. Your problems are temporary. You are 14 yo. In 4-5 years you may easily be on your own… removed from your current delema. You job for the nex 4-5 yrs is to prepare for that day when you are on your own and sitting quietly in your own recliner and watching what the “L” you want… like ga poern…lol on you own dang TV. I remember my first appartment… it felt like heaven Utopia. Yourproblems are only temporary… remember that

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