Straight Guy: Last News

Hi Jake,My wife and I have been together for 11 years and I’ve only ever been with women IRL, but I’ve always said if the circumstances were right I’d be open to experimenting with another guy. Some people might call me “heteroflexible,” although I don’t like labels.During the pandemic, I started going on video chat sites where people (mostly dudes) show off on cam. I mostly did it because I was bored. At first I would just watch, but eventually I worked up the courage to show off too.I used to only do it from time to time, but over the past few years, it has become a more regular thing. Now I go on almost daily, and sometimes I’ll stay on for hours at a time, showing off for other guys.My question is if I might be addicted to these sites? Also, is this cheating? My wife doesn’t know I do it, but I also don’t think she would care. It does feel like it could be getting out of hand if I’m not careful.Am I playing with fire here?Camera ReadyDear Camera Ready,I’m happy you’re giving voice to something a lot of people experience but don’t often talk about: being committed to one person, but also have curiosities or attractions to others.We know by now that sexuality falls on a spectrum, but it can be difficult to reconcile the various parts of ourselves while also trying to remain committed to one person.