Dear Abby for some social advice. The middle-aged man wants to know why he doesn’t have more straight friends.“I am a 47-year-old gay man.” the reader, identified only as “Curious in Oklahoma,” writes. “I’m well-educated, but there’s something I can’t figure out.
Why do straight guys NOT want to be friends? I never hit on them, I enjoy a lot of the same pastimes like games, working on cars, etc.
I want to be transparent, but when I tell them upfront, they disappear.”“Sometimes it gets back to me that they thought I was asking them on a date if I invited someone to go to a ballgame, for example.
I have plenty of female friends, but what I really want is a male best friend or, hell, just a male friend, period,” he continues.“Of course, everyone has their own opinions on what I should do — ‘join a meeting, a group, social activities and blah blah.’ I have done all of those things, and I can’t figure out what’s wrong.