Reddit user has refused to put his boyfriend of two years on his mortgage, leading to debate online.In the post, the 26-year-old shared their dilemma about refusing to put their boyfriend on the mortgage for a house he's been saving for years to buy. The post, which quickly gained traction, sparked widespread support for the original poster (OP) as he stood firm in his decision.According to the OP, their 23-year-old boyfriend implied he should be added to the mortgage if he's going to live in the home.
However, the boyfriend has not contributed to the savings or deposit."This has been a personal goal of mine," the OP wrote. "I'm super excited about it...Am I being unreasonable for wanting to keep the mortgage in my name?"Users on Reddit were quick to validate his concerns."I really only think you should sign both names on something when you're married, and even then, it could go wrong," one person advised."I work in finance, and I tell my friends that buying a home together is a bigger commitment than marriage," another wrote.
"The only thing that will force you to deal with someone longer is a kid."Financial planner and founder of Values Added Financial, Zach Teutsch, spoke to Newsweek about the issue, highlighting the importance of clear communication about money in relationships."Some couples share financial lives completely, some keep separate finances, and most are somewhere in between," he said. "The key is focused, mindful communication."Teutsch noted that this couple seems to have avoided discussing key financial topics, which has led to misaligned expectations."They are acting independently, not as a team.
They would have done well to start discussing these topics a year or more prior," he said.Teutsch also suggested that if the couple wishes to live together, a legally enforceable co-tenancy agreement could clarify financial commitments. Such an agreement would cover scenarios like payment defaults, apportioning profits if the house is sold and what
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