dating that, for a long time, I hadn’t felt ready to partake in. My 18-year-old self had, perhaps naively, thought the LGBTQ+ community would be different to the outside world.
That a group of people who historically had been othered and excluded would make everyone – no matter their differences – feel included.
As a South Asian man, some of my dating experiences were better than others and a lot has been said about the racism hidden behind the guise of ‘preference’ that is often found on gay dating sites.
But what we don’t really talk about, which I find far more rampant, is the other side of the spectrum. Fetishisation. As an 18 year old newly-out gay man with a thin, slender body (known in the gay community as a twink), I would get a.