Too gossipy, defensive and self-absorbed? Luke Akali argues that we gay men should take a fresh look at ourselves and the harmful thinking we’ve entrenched in our subcultures.
Please stop: Using “she” ironically This excludes using the pronoun for those who actually identify as such, of course. But far too often, gay men refer to one another as “she” or “her” in jest or when poking fun at each other.
The trouble with the flippant, ironic use of she/her pronouns for a gender-conforming gay man is that it trivialises the feminine.
This includes both the straight, cis-gender woman and any others on the LGBTQ spectrum who identify with and have chosen the traditionally feminine pronoun.