Facing our fears as queer parents Halloween is almost here, a celebration of all things scary. That means, of course, that we should be celebrating queer parenting, too, which brings with it no end of scary moments.
Here are some I have had, along with a few thoughts on facing our fears. • Waiting for our pregnancy results: My spouse Helen and I wanted to start our family through reciprocal in vitro fertilization (RIVF), using my eggs and her womb, with anonymous donor sperm.
This began with lots of — scary — injections we each had to give ourselves — Helen to prepare her womb and me to release multiple eggs.
Even though we used my (younger) eggs, we were scared that we would not have any success before our insurance coverage ran out.