I’ve been asked this question several times by well-meaning friends who have made it their life’s mission to see me have a romantic relationship.
To anyone asking, I’d like to say, please stop asking. Being asexual isn’t something I woke up deciding to try being out of the blue — it’s who I’ve always been, and I don’t need to try to know what I identify as.
Now, I understand the concern and intention behind the question, but why does trauma have to be the only answer to my sexual aversion?
This isn’t to discount the pain of those who may have suffered abuse or had bad experiences with intimacy, but that isn’t always the reason.