Hi Jake,I’m fairly new to the gay world, and still trying to figure out where I fit in. I spend a lot of time chatting on the apps, and everyone is always asking me if I’m a “top, bottom, or versatile.” The embarrassing truth is, I don’t know.
I haven’t had that many sexual experiences to figure it out, and some were totally awkward, so I don’t know if I should judge anything based on those. The worst part is I feel a pressure to pick an identity.
When I leave that blank in my profile, it’s the first question I get from potential hook-ups, and it’s been hard to dance around that issue.