Daily Dose: A hearty helping of ‘Love! Valour! Compassion!’

Hi Jake,34-year-old bachelor here. I love the single life. I’ve tried relationships in the past and I’m not good at them. I’m much better at being someone’s FWB than their BF. I’m sex positive, on PrEP, and love letting my freak flag fly. That said, here’s my dilemma: The guy I’ve been meeting up with for the past three months recently texted to say he tested positive for gonorrhea. I was lucky and didn’t catch it from him. (Two STD tests have confirmed this.) We’re not exclusive, so I wasn’t upset that he slept with someone else. In fact, more power to him! But last week he sent me a late night “WYD?” text and I didn’t respond. A few days later, he texted to ask if I was mad at him. I’m not mad, but after the gonorrhea thing I’m just not really feeling it with him anymore. I don’t want him to think I’m being judgmental, because I’m not. STIs are part of the single life and I get that. But something about a gonorrhea exposure killed the vibe for me and I don’t think I want to hook up with him again even though we have awesome chemistry in bed. Does that make me a bad FWB? Sincerely,STR (Sexually Transmitting Rejection)Dear STR (Sexually Transmitting Rejection),I want to applaud you for knowing who you are and what you want.