How I Do It: ‘As a bottom, sex can’t just be spontaneous for me’
metro.co.ukFor today’s instalment of How I Do It, our weekly series in which a person shares what seven days in their sex life looks like, we hear from Tom*.Tom is 24, bisexual and in a relationship with a man.He describes his relationship with sex as ‘complicated’, citing personal difficulties with the societal pressure he feels to get intimate on a regular basis.
Tom stresses that he never feels pressured by his partner, just his own ‘insecurities that a relationship needs sex to work’.He enjoys the fact that, after being with his partner for two years, they each know what the other likes and how to turn each other on.
They’re also comfortable trying new things, but Tom would still like their time in the bedroom to be a little more spontaneous and adventurous.
He’s interested in the idea of adding other people into the mix, saying it appeals to him when he’s aroused, but he’s also wary that the emotional impact of doing so ‘would hit me like a ton of bricks emotionally’ after the fact.
