Transmissions: The transition shower
A friend of mine alerted me to a social media post from a woman named Becca Green, and I wanted to share it here. In it, Green shares a brilliant possibility. "Can't wait until we throw trans folks transition showers to celebrate their authenticity and buy them things they need and teach them stuff they missed learning as kids instead of the current set up where we abuse, discriminate, gaslight and disown them," wrote Green, whose Twitter handle is @wordofgreen. "Like if someone would have bought me some cosmetics that weren't trash and worked for my skin tone and showed me how to sit down in a skirt or whatever while we all had champagne," Green wrote. "I'd have saved a lot of wasted money and time and also felt like a person instead of a burden." She continued, "Seriously: throw your loved ones transition showers.
Celebrate their becoming! I had so much joy on coming out only to discover a lot of people wanted to put on mourning faces and tell me 'you're so brave' or 'we'll get through this' and it's kinda soul crushing, if I'm honest." I've written many times of how a transgender person isn't becoming another gender: they already were that gender but just weren't able to express it.
For lack of a better term, it's a bit of a larval stage, as we may initially try to fit in with what we're being told we are.
For others, it may be that they have tried to insist on their gender, only to have it kept from them. When we finally come out, for us, it is as if we have finally found an answer for ourselves.
