When Joseph Schneier posted his profile on the dating app OkCupid in 2016, he didn’t think anyone would respond. “My post intentionally listed all the things that worked for me and the things that didn’t,” said Mr.
Schneier, 43. “I wanted to be by myself.” He had been divorced twice and had three children, who were living with him full time in Sunnyside Gardens, Queens.
When he created his dating page, he had spent the last year undergoing a gender transition. Allie Brashears, 45, came across his post, and was charmed by his transparency. “I’d not met many people who were deeply honest,” she said. “I was struck by how open he was.” Ms.