Bisexual Love Guru Byron Jamal Heals Hoes with New Book
Inspired by his work as a “love guru” and his own sexual hang-ups, former pastor Byron Jamal is healing sexual wounds with his new book, “How to Heal a Hoe.” With his book, the dating coach and love counselor is teaching readers how to overcome the stigma, shame, and trauma of their sexual past. “From my work with clients and doing my coaching, I realized that a lot of people deal with some form of sexual shame, stigma, or trauma that impacts their relationships,” Jamal told Georgia Voice. “A lot of times we have sex for the purposes of reenacting things that were painful for us or as a coping mechanism.
I’m trying to get people to realize that sex is a beautiful thing that can be perverted, but if you do it with the right intention and right heart, you’re able to move past that.” “How to Heal a Hoe” is made up of four parts — The Making of a Hoe, The Healing of a Hoe, Loving a Hoe, and Hoe Resources — all with the intention of self-healing and creating a new sexual outlook that recognizes sex as a part of healthy self-expression.
A “hoe,” in Jamal’s mind, is not someone who is simply sexually promiscuous as the word is conventionally defined. Instead, a hoe is someone who reclaims the word and the ways sex has hurt them, who knows they have a sexual wound that needs healing and believes they are capable of healing it. “A hoe is anyone who self-defines as one,” he said. “The person has to own it themselves.
If you are walking around with a hoe mentality, that means you have done something in your sexual past that [you think] disqualifies you from real love, that is shameful, that you carry as baggage, that you feel like is a dark cloud over your head.
