How to feel connected to your bisexuality when you’re in a ‘straight’ relationship
Counselling Directory member John-Paul Davies tells Metro.co.uk.‘These can include anxiety, depression, chronic anger and dependencies.
Loneliness is often not about having too few people around you, but feeling unable to speak about the things that are important to you and sexual identity can be important. ‘Of course it’s only an aspect of who you are, but if you believe you have to split off any fundamental part of yourself, to deny and hide it, it will take on far more importance than it ought to psychologically and often become self-destructive.‘Prolonged internal struggles are exhausting. ‘To be connected to your bisexual identity gives you access in life to all the power, creativity, energy, meaning, freedom to love and drive that’s contained in that part of you and that comes with complete self-expression and acceptance.’It’s easy to ‘pass’ as straight when you’re bisexual and dating people of the opposite gender, but it can leave you feeling internally conflicted.
If your partner doesn’t know that you’re bisexual, how would you feel about telling them? It doesn’t need to be a big deal or a serious sit-down conversation, so don’t worry if that freaks you out.
Simply acknowledging within your relationship that you are attracted to more than one gender can help you feel more whole and more known by your partner. ‘It might be important to have the space to connect with the emotional aspects of your bisexual identity with your partner by opening up about it and what it means to you,’ says psychotherapist John-Paul. ‘A truly loving relationship should be a safe space within which to do this.’It’s tricky to feel like you’re part of the bisexual community if you’re not actually hanging out with any LGBTQ+ people.
