It’s not wrong to be attracted to masculine people more than to feminine people, but it is wrong to be a prick about that preference.So say many commenters in Reddit’s r/gay forum, who recently gave counsel to someone wondering if being masc-attracted was a problem.“I see that a lot of guys put ‘masc4masc’ and ‘no femmes’ in their Grindr profiles, and a lot of my gay friends have talked about how offensive this is,” the original poster explained. “I do feel like when dating, I’m more attracted to a guy with a deeper voice, strong jaw, taller [stature], all ‘masculine’ traits.
But at times I feel like I’m being shallow for liking this mostly and like I’m discriminating against more femme gays.”He went on: “If I were to explain why, I’d say it’s because I think masculine energy represents a balance to me.
I lean more towards having a feminine energy, so I think I’m more nurturing, sensitive, [and] receptive, and a partner to me ideally should complement these traits.
What do you guys think?”Related: Gay guys sound off on pressure to act masculineIn a popular but since-deleted comment, one person wrote, “There is absolutely nothing wrong with it as long as you’re respectful to people you’re not attracted to.”“This,” another user responded. “Femme guys are a huge turn-off for me sexually.