Grindr has added a new position called ‘side’ that users can display on their profile instead of top, bottom or versatile. It refers to those who do not enjoy anal sex, with the term first being made popular by psychotherapist Joe Kort in the 2010s. “This is one of my proudest professional moments,” he wrote on Twitter after learning of the update, which is available to users as of 15 May. “I contributed a term to the gay male community.
Gay men are always defining themselves as top and bottom or verse for intercourse. What about gay men who don’t engage in intercourse?
I call them sides.” Dr Kort explained that people can also be “side-verse”, meaning you are someone that does not generally have anal sex but chooses to at times.
He added that although what sides enjoy varies from person to person, most tend to enjoy other sexual activites such as kissing and oral sex more.