American psychotherapist Dr Joe Kort, coined the term to describe gay men who don’t enjoy anal sex and don’t feel comfortable defining themselves as a top or bottom!Grindr has announced that it was going beyond ‘top’, ‘bottom’ and ‘versatile’ and adding a new option – giving its users the option to identify as a ‘Side’.#grindr @grindr is adding “side” to its positions.
I created a this term in 2013. I’m so proud!! pic.twitter.com/JyZy8uPXPo— DrJoeKort (@drjoekort) May 4, 2022Grindr contacted Dr Kort, a clinical director and founder of The Center for Relationship and Sexual Health in the United States, at the beginning of this month to advise him that they were taking his suggestion of adding ‘Side’ as an position in their drop down menu of selectable positions and a matching filter.Image: When Kort first introduced the term in 2013 in a piece for HuffPost, he described the position thusly: “Sides prefer to kiss, hug and engage in oral sex, rimming, mutual masturbation and rubbing up and down on each other, to name just a few of the sexual activities they enjoy.” “These men enjoy practically every sexual practice aside from anal penetration of any kind.
They may have tried it, and even performed it for some time, before they became aware that for them, it was simply not erotic and wasn’t getting any more so.
Some may even enjoy receiving or giving anal stimulation with a finger, but nothing beyond that.”It takes a different type of courage to defy the norms and own the decision to identify as a Side but now Grindr has done some of the hard work.