Too Hot Tamales), and have even shared a husband. Seriously.“I wasn’t a lesbian until much later in life. I had no idea!” Feniger admits with a laugh. “Now, as for my wife [filmmaker Liz Lachman] — we’ve been together 25 years — she knew from the time she was like 5 years old.”Since she realized she was into women and ended her marriage, Feniger says she and ex-husband, Josh Schweitzer, have been able to remain friends and even work together on occasion.“Many years later, I introduced him to Mary Sue — and they’ve been together for about 30-plus years now,” Feniger says of how nicely that worked out.On her experiences of being an out lesbian chef for several decades, Feniger says she feels her gender, more than her queerness, has impeded.