I’m a lesbian in an LGBTQ+ sports league & I feel discriminated against by gay men. What gives?
Hi Jake,27-year-old butch lesbian here. I recently joined a queer sports league with a mix of different people from the LGBTQ+ community.
It’s been a lot of fun meeting new friends, but one thing I quickly noticed was that a lot of the gay men in the league like to make passive aggressive “jokes” about how women are “gross” and our bodies “smell.” Keep in mind, these are grown men saying these things.
Some of them are older than me. And I get it. They’re not into chicks! (No complaints here. The feeling is mutual. I’m not into dudes!) Subscribe to our newsletter for a refreshing cocktail (or mocktail) of LGBTQ+ entertainment and pop culture, served up with a side of eye-candy.But at what age do people begin to realize that it’s not OK to say those kinds of things to people?
We are supposed to be a community, but it’s hard to feel connected when I’m constantly made to feel like the butt of a joke simply because I’m a lesbian.How should I handle this? Locker Room LesbianDear Locker Room Lesbian,Anyone who joins a sports league deserves to be treated with respect and dignity, so I’m sorry that your experience has been negative.
