Supreme Court ruling that would grant marriage equality to gay and lesbian couples. We told a group of close friends they were attending a house blessing on that important day.One of our dearest friends, a priest, married us—though he was at risk of being defrocked for officiating a ceremony for a lesbian couple. Neither of us could afford to be out at the time without risking our livelihoods.Kathy was in an appointed position as director of Hattiesburg's city planning department.