As a transgender man who sleeps with both men and women, and who occasionally ponders whether I’m a gay man, I’ve found there to be some issues with gay culture.
Granted, the culture of gay men varies widely: there are gay men who flaunt gayness at every turn, as they should, in Pride marches and at festivals and Nellie’s.
There are gay men who join bowling leagues; there are gay men who play video games all day; there are gay men who work at McKinsey; and then there are gay men like Tim Cook who preside over the entirety of Apple.
So gayness comes in all forms, and most forms should be celebrated. But I believe there are still some toxic traits of gay culture.