Dear Michael, A few months ago you answered a letter from a guy who wanted a baby but his boyfriend didn’t.
I’m in the opposite situation. Carol and I have been together for 16 years (we’re married) and all of a sudden she wants to have a baby.
This was never on the table until her dad died last year suddenly of a heart attack. Since then she’s been a different person.
She tells me that she wants to focus on something “bigger” than just enjoying life and also wants some sort of sense that “life will go on.” To me, being queer has always meant that we get to fully live life in the present, for us.