pan. Get it? Positive or negative, it didn’t make a difference to who I was in that moment, but I certainly felt an element of pressure around the label.I just actually wanted to be Kimberly, who likes who she likes.
The biggest issue with a label is that it COULD stunt growth.What happens if next week, there is a new word that better describes my sexuality, does that then mean I was insincere with my last label?Does this then feed people’s opinions to say, ‘she must be confused’?The reality is, I am not confused at all, it’s all crystal clear.
For me love is love.Last month, in an interview with Loose Women, I stated I was Pan, and in that moment it best described where I am at with my sexuality.But I have the luxury of being a 35-year-old, over-opinionated, confident, and well supported person.I wasn’t this girl in the Tinder days, time has allowed me that.
But it doesn’t mean to say that this is who I must be all my life.And my point is this, if you are struggling to define what label best describes you, give yourself time and just start with your name.