So your partner just asked you to be their dom… Now what?
exploration. Hopefully, this article will help you navigate it a little more easily. At the end of the day, it’s all about power play–in all its forms–and most people find they enjoy it one way or another.
First things first, let’s clear the air about some BDSM misconceptions. Contrary to what some anti-LGBTQ+ lawmakers might believe, being interested in BDSM is not a mental illness (even though it was classified as one until 2013).
People who enjoy this are as mentally healthy as everyone else, and it’s more common than you might think. In fact, over half of men fantasize about being dominated sexually.
Statistically speaking, that means one sub per couple, and if you’re dating someone then you can probably guess who’s who. In simple terms, a dom/sub relationship means that one partner takes a dominant role and the other takes a submissive role. (No, it’s not the same thing as being a top or a bottom!) This gives each of them a psychological feeling of power or submission that intensifies sexual pleasure.
