Help: My boyfriend mocks me for doing “gay stuff”
‘AskGayBros’ subreddit has prompted hundreds of responses. The poster (@zerod3x) titled his dilemma, ‘My boyfriend mocks me for doing “gay” stuff’He then went on to offer details.
He’s been with his guy for around a year: “Every time I pick up a blow dryer I’m getting bad looks from my bf. He also got mad when he found out I’m using a conditioner.
Last night I was putting on moisturizer on my arms and he got up from bed, told me that it stinks and left the room. In the morning he told me that it didn’t smell bad, he just couldn’t handle me putting on a moisturizer.
I mean.. how do you handle this?”Many of those to respond pointed out that the boyfriend was dealing with a lot of internalized homophobia, and his behavior was a major red flag.“How long have you been together?” asked one. “Unless the person did a 180 character-wise, I’m legit always confused as to how people get to the relationship stage without spotting behavior like this.”This led to a debate about why people might overlook red flags, trying to “fix” a partner’s behavior, and how much work needs to go into making a relationship work before you decide to walk away.“I think it’s fixable, but he needs to want to fix it,” cautioned another. “This is seriously ingrained internalized homophobia.“There are really just two options the way I see it,” they continued. “He can recognize that his behavior is hurting you and try to change his behavior … Maybe some reading material on toxic masculinity and internalized homophobia could help him.
