Successful open relationships take effort
(Editor’s note: This is the second of a two-part feature on open relationships. Click here for last week’s installment.) Open relationships are often ridiculed as the easy way out of commitment.
After speaking with Scott and Kelsey, however, it’s clear they’re anything but easy. Kelsey reflected on the ups and downs of being open in the past. “Younger me definitely needed it,” Kelsey said. “At the same time, drama came with it as well.” While Scott and their partner have been together for nine years, it took four before they decided to open their relationship. “It came from the desire for the two of us to meet boys together,” said Scott. “Then we had some really terrible threesomes.” Drama.
Bad threesomes. Yikes – these aren’t exactly selling points for being open. But their experiences underscore something important: open relationships, like all relationships, are actually quite hard.
Couples considering openness shouldn’t trick themselves into thinking it will make things easier. In reality, they take a lot of work.
