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My BFF is getting serious with a shady new guy. Should I try to talk some sense into him?
Hi Jake,I have a yucky feeling about the new man in my best friend’s life. They met on the apps (no shame), and within a month they were calling each other their “boyfriend” and telling each other “I love you.” Three months later, they have “commitment rings” and are talking about moving in together. It’s insane.The guy just gives me such bad vibes. He was previously married but divorced his husband about two years ago. Since then he’s been living with his sister, rent-free. He works random part-time jobs, but never seems to have any money, so my friend always pays for everything. On top of that, he seems to have this weird hold over him. He never lets him do anything alone. They always have to be together.Subscribe to our daily newsletter for a refreshing cocktail (or mocktail) of LGBTQ+ entertainment and pop culture, served up with a side of eye-candy.I really want to pull my friend aside and tell him I’m worried about this relationship, but his boyfriend makes it impossible because he’s always hovering. Plus, I don’t know if my friend is really in a space where he’d be open to hearing what I have to say. It’s like he’s under a spell or something. THIS GUY IS BAD NEWS! What should I do?Bothered BestieDear Bothered Bestie,It’s always difficult when a best friend starts to get serious with a romantic partner.