Dear Michael, I’m wrestling with my fiancé about becoming parents and it’s delaying our getting married. We’ve been dating for three years and would like to spend our lives together.
But the issue of becoming parents has always been a source of disagreement for us. Will says he has never been that interested, while I’ve always wanted to be a dad.
Will says he is willing to do it if it’s important to me but he’s really concerned he will be resentful. He doesn’t want to give up having an active social life that includes going out a fair amount, drinks, dinners, and vacations with our friends, lots of time at the gym, etc.
I like doing those things too but I’m feeling that I’m at a stage of my life (I’m 31) where I can put a fair amount of that behind me in order to focus on creating and raising a family.