I’m a Queer Man Who Had a Fling With Another Guy. Should His Girlfriend Be Told?
I’m a man who recently had a fling with a man who is in a monogamous heterosexual relationship. We had sex twice. While I am in a nonmonogamous relationship myself, I respect the practice of monogamy.
Normally I wouldn’t get involved with someone who is unfaithful. But here I felt my moral obligations to a struggling member of my own queer community were greater than those to his partner.
The guy I had the fling with is not openly queer, but he reached out on an app for gay hookups. After we messaged back and forth, it became clear that his relationship is not emotionally or physically sustaining.
Both of our encounters occurred in the apartment he shares with his girlfriend; we only ever met there because she consistently tracks his phone’s location and would confront him if he went anywhere without letting her know.
