What to make of gay guys who prefer straight bars?
gay nightlife. He says it can feel like he’s the only one.“Is this a more common phenomenon that I’m giving it credit for?,” he asked. “I feel like a lot of queer people who don’t love gay bars typically aren’t as engaged in nightlife and it’s not their thing.
I had trouble finding gay people who love nightlife and going out, but rarely if ever want to go to a gay bar or feel most comfortable there to be themselves.”Fact of the matter is, you can still have freaky fun in sobriety.
As mentioned, there’s a growing sober movement in the queer community that stresses the importance of socializing in settings without alcohol.
There’s also the fact that gay bars haven’t always been inclusive to every gay man. Some feel the scene upholds unrealistic and harmful beauty standards. “In my youth, [gay] spaces were more uncomfortable because they were filled with much more judgment as people sized everyone else up and mentally categorized each other by attractiveness,” somebody added. “Gay men are often much harder on each other than other people are.”There’s also no rule that gay men must like gay bars. “Every bar has a theme.
