Woman Spends $23,500 Changing Her Gender After Divorce—'I Was So Secretive'
Newsweek that her path to becoming her true self took years of emotional, physical and psychological transformation.The 50-year-old was married to a woman for over a decade while concealing her true identity, which eventually led to their divorce."I had nothing to lose, as my wife had left," the project manager said, recalling the year she came out as transgender, aged 42."I didn't just wake up one day and decide to become a woman," Bocon said. "I led a secretive life before transitioning."She recalled trying on her mother's heels, dresses and makeup as a child when her parents weren't around, followed by cross-dressing in her adult years."As a child, I hated the male parts of my body.
I was frustrated and confused," she said."As I got older, I was so secretive and undercover about cross-dressing, I never got caught."Bocon's first major attempt to suppress her identity came in her adult years when she fell in love and married in the early 2000s."I was afraid to share my secret with anyone, but there was always something missing," she said.
After moving to the U.K. in 2004, she confided in her then-wife that she sometimes dressed up in women's clothes, a revelation that deeply affected her partner.Bocon told Newsweek: "It was traumatic for her.
She never expected it, but I hoped she would accept it."Despite this, Bocon, who has two children, continued to suppress her feelings. "I thought having kids would help, but my body demanded that I do something about it," she said."I had anxiety, depression and disturbed sleep."Bocon took a job requiring frequent international travel to escape her feelings, but it didn't help.
