Seriously, what’s the deal with gay men & ghosting?
The following is an excerpt from F*ckboys Are Boring: A Gay Man’s Guide to Dating (For Everyone) by Ryan Sheldon, available now wherever books are sold. Follow Ryan on Instagram and TikTok.A post shared by Ryan Sheldon (@realryansheldon)When I was choosing unavailable men and getting ghosted all the time, it was baffling to me.
You can suck my d*ck and be inside me but have a problem calling or texting me to say it’s not working out? While examining my old tendency to pick dates who allowed me to relive my abuse and abandonment issues, I realized something.
These acts of ghosting had very little to do with me. But my habit of pursuing men who were destined to abandon me was a pattern I chose and accepted willingly.
It was time for me to learn healthy relationship behaviors that were never modeled for me in childhood. Even a basic understanding of how to end a relationship would save me a world of pain.
