unpopular opinions about sex, but the responses below all turned out to be popular, with dozens of upvotes apiece.And as hundreds of comments came in, themes started emerging: It seems like our fellow gays are looking for emotional connections with the dudes in their bed, and they’re not necessarily looking for penetrative sex. (And when they are, they’re not looking for rigid roles.)Here’s a variety of comments from the thread, all of which received at least 24 upvotes.“No matter how hot the other guy is, if you haven’t established the proper connection beforehand, then it’s very dull and forgetful.
The looks fade fast. Some of the hottest guys I’ve been with have been the most ‘meh’ encounters.”“Sex in a long-term relationship is way better than causal sex.”“Gay men won’t admit it, but despite sometimes sleeping with 10 guys a week, most of us are still not sexually satisfied.
Slow, cuddly sex with an average-looking monogamous partner is way better than being f*cked rough by a muscle masc top who’s a 10.
Also, cruising in public spaces should just remain in porn. Don’t do it in real life.”“Cuddling and foreplay is hotter than the actual sex.”“It’s still good sex if nobody gets penetrated.”“69 is overrated.”“You don’t have to choose only top or bottom.”“The most ‘genuine’ form of gay sex is penis-to-penis contact… since it’s literally both male parts connecting.