off by behaviors and attitudes others assume to be turn-ons.In a recent r/AskGayMen Reddit thread, one user asked, “Guys, what do other gays do that they think is sexy that just isn’t?”The thread has attracted more than 220 comments so far, and some of the turn-offs Reddit users listed—femmephobic and transphobic behaviors, for example—are objectively reprehensible.
Others, however, are matters of taste—such as commenters’ opinions about cosmetic options, underwear types, and even twerking.Here’s a roundup of replies from the thread, lightly Botoxed touched up for readability.“Assuming you’re a top/bottom based off your behavior.
Some guys think they’re so suave for thinking you’re a bottom just because you aren’t some alpha chad masc bloke. If you’re trying to get with me, just ask me what I’m into instead of playing some weird guessing game.”“Assuming whether I’m a top or bottom purely based off the fact I’m trans—and the constant d*ck spam.
I want to get to know you a little first. Calm down.”“Sending zoomed-in hole pics way too soon.”“Getting really sexually explicit minutes into your first conversation.”“I’ll say it: Lots of guys think they’re good at twerking and are just not.