¡Hola Papi!, Does My Grandmother Need to Know I’m Gay?
Hosted by Anna MartinProduced by Julia Botero, Christina Djossa, Reva Goldberg, Emily Lang and Davis LandEdited by Jen Poyant, Davis Land and Reva GoldbergEngineered by Daniel RamirezOriginal music by Dan Powell Listen and follow Modern LoveApple Podcasts | Spotify| Amazon Music “I said [to my abuela], ‘I’m gay.’ And she turned to me and she was like, You know, mijo, Rachel Maddow’s a handsome woman.” John Paul Brammer writes the “¡Hola Papi!” advice column for The Cut at New York magazine, answering questions like, “Why am I dreaming about sex with a man when I’m a lesbian?” Or, “What if my partner judges me for writing smut?” This candor has given John Paul an intimate connection with his readers.
However, as today’s episode reveals, he doesn’t think we necessarily need that level of openness with all of our loved ones.
Ahead of Mother’s Day, Brammer reads an essay about a recent college graduate who sets out to spend the summer exploring his sexuality, but whose plans are derailed by his duty to his grandmother.
It’s called “Young, Gay and Single Among the Nuns and Widows” by Kevin Hershey. Brammer says it’s “bizarre” how much this essay resonates with his own life.
