I’m a college professor who saw my “straight” PhD candidate at a men’s spa. How should I handle it?
Hi Jake,I‘m a professor in my mid 40s at a pretty well-known university. In addition to teaching classes, I’m currently mentoring three PhD candidates in developing their research skills and completing their postdocs.Sounds professional, right?
I try to be… which is why I was freaking out when I saw one of my candidates at a very frisky men’s spa that I frequent in L.A.Trust me, I’ve always had reservations about being out in public in this type of setting, especially since it’s basically become a modern day bathhouse.
Guys are wearing nothing but a small white towel, and many times even those are fallen by the wayside when they are in the steam room or saunas.
Not only that, but there’s TONS of action, and no one even tries to hide it! That said, professors have needs too, and I had never seen anyone I knew before… until now. As I was walking towards the hot tub last weekend, low and behold one of my PhD candidates is coming back from that area and walks right by me, locking eyes along the way.
