Gay guys give tips on going from promiscuous to monogamous
his post on the AskGayMen Reddit forum, the user in question says he’s leaving a life of “threesomes, saunas, one-night hookups, [and] clubbing” for a monogamous relationship with someone he likes.
And now he can use some pointers.The dude clarifies that he and his partner have similar libidos, but he’s worried he’ll get a “wandering eye” and go down “a path of poor choices.”“I just want to know if there are other guys who were very promiscuous and went into a monogamous relationship successfully,” he writes.And fellow Reddit users were full of good advice.“If you’re concerned about temptation, don’t put yourself in positions where you’ll be tempted,” one user wrote in the top-voted comment. “Cheating is the result of a series of active decisions, it doesn’t ‘just happen.’ For example, if [you] don’t think you can resist a guy who’s really turning you on, don’t hang out with him in the first place.”Another user said that boredom is common and communication is key in relationships. “If you can’t tell each other the most difficult things you are going through, good luck,” that user wrote. “If you have the type of communication where you can be honest in a loving and supportive way with each other, you’ll get through it.”Do you agree with this advice?
A third commenter advised giving the monogamous relationship the ol’ college try. “Just get into the relationship and check if you can hold it on,” that commenter wrote. “If you realize that you desire the promiscuous over monogamous, communicate with your partner.
If he accepts it, it’s cool. If not, you break up.”And someone else pointed out that a wandering eye need not lead to poor choices.
