Just Like Us ambassador Iona Makepeace-Lott explores how asexual people don’t conform to romantic conventions. Words by Iona Makepeace-Lott I’m asexual.
I don’t experience sexual attraction, and that’s perfectly fine. Who cares, right? It would be reasonable to assume that asexuality only affects whether or not a person has sex.
Reasonable, but sadly wrong. The problem is how interweaved sex is with our society’s way of viewing relationships and intimacy.
Let me explain. Picture a romantic relationship. These imaginary partners are very much in love. They fall asleep in each other’s arms, they spend evenings together watching TV, snuggled up so that one person’s head is resting on their partner’s chest listening to their heartbeat.